Post 3: Filipino Woman

Throughout time, women have been greatly misunderstood, and due to this, men have labelled women in an attempt to figure out what they are thinking.  However, these labels are clearly a lazy attempt at even trying to describe women, as such, men have taken both extremes to describe a woman or to categorize a woman.

In the article Unveiling the 'Madonna-Whore' Complex by Jodie Gummow, she described the condition wherein men categorize women into Madonnas/virgins or whores/sluts.  A man is divided and thinks that a woman who he wants to have a sexual relationship with cannot be his wife for his wife is the mother of his children which reminds him of his own mother and as such is not viewed as a sexual partner.  And also since mans first sexual images comes from porn sites, the dichotomy of Madonna/whore is further enforced.


"In essence, the effect of Madonna-whore on a relationship is an inability of the man to maintain sexual arousal within a committed, loving partnership." says Jodie Gummow.

Women, like men can never be understood by the opposite sex, or rather people cannot understand other people unless they are in a deep and loving relationship.  Our natural ways of attempting to categorize people to quickly identify them is the major flaw in every equation.  For one, no one can be placed at extremes, there can be no Gentleman/Player guy or a Madonna/Whore female, there can only be a man or a woman; a gentleman or a lady.  If we are somehow able to change this perspective and view each other for who they really are and not what society dictates, relationships will bloom and there would be lesser dissatisfaction from our partners.




Slut-shaming has taken to new heights as women use this method to police lower class women from an article named Slut-shaming has little to do with sex, study finds by Marisa Taylor.  In her article, she clearly states that a university uses slut-shaming as a means to identify the lower class or less affluent ladies thus even though they engage in sexual activity less are called sluts while the higher class are free to experiment on their sexuality.



"The researchers discovered that definitions of "slutty" behavior and the act of slut-shaming was largely determined along class lines rather than based on actual sexual behavior. What's more, they found the more affluent women were able to engage in more sexual experimentation without being slut-shamed, while the less-affluent women were ridiculed as sluts for being “trashy” or “not classy,” even though they engaged in less sexual behavior." says Marisa Taylor.

It is a shame that even women engage in slut-shaming, which is like degrading oneself.  If one is free from being called a slut due to their class then it is only fitting that such a term is no longer used for it is contradictory.  Women are free to do what they want just as men are free to do what they want.  Society should not dictate on what a person wants for we have different tastes and are equally unique.  It is a shame that even women promote slut-shaming and not work hand in hand in an attempt to eradicate such a thought from the face of humanity.